We have three children, twins eight and a four year old girl. All IVF, donor eggs. My only boy is now saying he is scared of his dad and his behavior at home is challenging - he has been weeing into cups in his room because he is scared to go past his dad to go to the toilet at night, he has been stealing food from the cupboards and fridge, mostly sweets, sweet biscuits/cookies and crisps/chips. We have tried removing TV, electronics, giving him 'hard labour' (this has been raking lawns, weeding, sweeping driveways), stopping his pocket money. Nothing has worked, he has continued to help himself (he has carte blanch to help himself to fruit, toast, cereals, but chooses to take the forbidden), and now he has been stopped from taking the iPad, he has been taking my laptop into his room at night. He can barely wake up of a morning he is so tired from being up during the night with his contraband. My oldest daughter has also told friends aft a sleepover, that she was scared of her dad, but that was quite some time ago (more than a year).
I guess I am after a few things. Where do stand legally as the children are biologically his, and how do I manage the behavior? Should I be separating for the children? Can my husband change?